Despite being a taboo topic, anal sex is becoming more common among heterosexual adults. This could be due to increased experimentation and seeing anal sex normalised in pornography.
Whether you’re a penetrator or a receiver, anal penetration with a penis, finger or sex toy can be extremely pleasurable. But first, make sure you’ve got the right lube and a clean anus.
1. You’re a penis-haver
The anus has a dense concentration of nerves that participate with the genitals in sexual pleasure. Penis-in-anus penetration, when performed correctly and with plenty of lube, can trigger the same pleasure centers that light up during vaginal penetration. This is true for men and women, as well as cis and transgender people.
While the anus may feel uncomfortable for some newcomers, it can be a source of pleasure for anyone who feels aroused in the right circumstances. If you are a beginner, it is best to ease into anal play by experimenting during masturbation, with your fingers or a small sex toy like a prostate dildo or butt plug. This will help you become more familiar with the anal area, so that when you have a partner to pleasure it will be more comfortable for both of you.
Once you’ve gotten comfortable with anal stimulation, try penetrating the anus with a penis, your finger(s), a sex toy, or even with your mouth (this is known as oral anal sex). Remember that anal sex is still sex and you will want to use personal lubricant to make the experience more pleasurable for both partners. It’s also important to talk with your partner about the experience and make sure that you’re both on the same page about what makes anal sex enjoyable for each of you.
2. You’re a receiver
For many women, anal play can feel incredibly sexual. It is a unique experience that involves inserting the penis up through the anal sphincter, which is rich in nerve endings. Many women report that this type of penetration is more pleasurable than vaginal penetration, as it allows them to explore the entire area with their partners.
It’s important to note that anal penetration can also be painful if it is done incorrectly. There is a risk of fecal incontinence and gynecologic complications if lubrication and positioning are not used appropriately. For this reason, it is important to practice on yourself first or have an honest discussion with a partner about expectations and desires for anal play.
It is also a good idea to use a condom during anal intercourse and a dental dam when rimming. Like other forms of sexual activity, anal sex can carry a risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as HIV, chlamydia, and gonorrhea. It’s also possible to pass on bacterial infections, including giardia and shigella, through anal intercourse.
3. You’re a penetrator
People of all genders like to touch their anuses — it’s called an erogenous zone. It has a lot of sensitive nerves and many people find it pleasurable to stimulate it with their fingers, a penis, or a sex toy. But it’s important to remember that anal play can hurt, especially if you go too fast or don’t use enough lube.
The anus has a tight muscle (an internal sphincter) that opens to allow you to pass stools and closes to keep things from going in when you don’t want them to. It’s possible to relax this muscle and make it easier to insert a penis or a sex toy, but you need lots of lube to avoid pain and bruising.
It’s also important to choose a position that feels comfortable for both partners. The doggy-style position can be uncomfortable for some, so try other positions, such as lying side by side with the top spooning the bottom or sitting on the bottom with the anal area exposed and a pillow to cushion your head and back. It’s also a good idea to give your partner feedback on how they are feeling, so they can adjust their intensity if needed. And always remember that unprotected anal sex puts you at a higher risk for sexually transmitted infections, including HIV and STIs.
4. You’re a receptive
The anus is a highly sensitive part of the body and it can feel incredibly pleasurable when touched. Many people love touching their anus. It’s a sexual pleasure called “anal play.” This includes anal penetration and oral anal sex where someone stimulates the anus with their lips or tongue (also known as rimming). People of all genders can enjoy anal sex, whether they are giving or receiving. The anus has lots of sensitive nerve endings, which is why it can give pleasure when it is stimulated by a penis or a finger. Anal sex is also known as anal penetration or anal sex and it can be a very satisfying experience.
Anal sex can be painful if it is done incorrectly. It is important to start slowly and use lots of lube. It is also good to practice with a safe partner. A little blood is normal the first time or two but if you see any signs of severe bleeding, stop and talk to your healthcare professional.
It is possible to get a sexually transmitted infection in the anus, but it is less common than other areas of the body. The risk is higher for the person getting anal sex, also known as the bottom. That is because the sphincter muscle in the anus needs to relax for anal penetration. Foreplay, such as kissing or massage, can help this happen.
